Life Advice (7): Trust The last life advice. TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.' Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB' Life Advice (6): No pointing fingers NO POINTING FINGERSA man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. Life advice (5): Creating prefect relationships? CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television.'There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins. Life Advice (4): No Overpowering NO OVERPOWERING Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.'It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.. Mad about English! Synopsis:Since winning the bid to host the Olympics, China's citizens have been stricken with what they call 'ying wen re' - English fever! Beginning a passionate love affair with what was once the forbidden tongue of the 'decadent' West, "Mad About English!" follows the inspiring and heart-warming efforts of a city preparing to host the world by learning English. With half a million or more visitors expected during the games, the stakes are high for our endearing cast of characters for whom speaking English is now national service!---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Can i laugh at how the Chinese policeman using English in a creative way? Oh, and the usual word by word translation of the signboards, food menu and road sign.No doubt that the efforts are there, but the expression of the foreigners in the movie is priceless! Life advice (3): Be patient BE PATIENTThis is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home and committed suicide.Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones and hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Life Advice (2): Right Speech Second life adviceRIGHT SPEECHThere is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered,'You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed. Life Advice (1): Personal Perception This is actually an email from my friend. There are 7 useful advice to life. And i will post it once every day.PERSONAL PERCEPTIONDifferent people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.' The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear. Drive or no drive? This is the most dreaded question i hate to answer whenever i drive a car with my classmates or friends in it."Why you dont want to drive to school?"Firstly, i drive is when there is a need to. Not as and when i like it.Secondly, oil prices. Now the oil prices is so high, i really have to think thrice or more by taking the car out.Thirdly, ERP. When i drove back from Woodlands, i saw three gantries along the expressway. I wonder how the expressway speed limit from 80km/h can reduce to 40km/h along the expressway. Luckily i drove back was on a Saturday night.Fourth, public transport. Government encouraging it right though we have to squeeze each other into a mobile sardine can. Furthermore, i got concession pass. Cost will still be lower than driving a car.Do i need to say more? Birth-dead I had a very tired birthday today. Not from celebration. But to do a bazaar at a location where it is low in traffic. YuNz, you good, purposely ask people not to attend the bazaar hor.Drove to pick up my goods before proceeding there. Set up store and began selling the product. Initially there were some traffic as it was a really hot day, but after that, there were no sales for like 3 hours. So for the last 2 hours, we cut price and increase the quantity as we tried to minimize our loss and to take as little stock back as possible.After that, went to meet XT, Mandy and fitti for supper. And the very first person they ask me is Jaywalk. The man they have been so wanted to meet, but due to wrong timing. Time to schedule a supper instead of binge drinking liao. Letting go I have decided to let go of something that have no significance value anymore. Im not going into details of how it happen or what trigger off the reaction.All i could say is that, for all my efforts in rebuilding and restore respect and trust because of past incident, it take a moment to came crashing down.Im not saying im not without fault either. I should have been more observant and i should not have let my heart take over my mind. Back After some logical reasoning chats with some of the barflies, i make my blog public again.Truth to be told, i didnt post anything during this period of absence despite my personal reasons and certain factors contributed to the privatization of blog.Nevertheless, had a couple of activities over the last few weeks.First was the birthday celebration with YuNz at Timbre on 5th July. All i could say was i neither feel high or drunk despite barflies trying their best to make me drunk and pass out. The sequence goes like this: Tah, tah, tah, puke, tah, tah, puke, tah tah tah. All within 2 hours. Bah.I wonder if this is going to be a yearly affair for me and YuNz. I might never look at my birthday celebration soberly ever again.Thanks to the following barflies for their warm wishes and their presence: DTTS aka magic unipoke, Dowagr, Cow, AhTiong, Ed, Kell, Cakie, MSV, Vandalin, R3gular, TTSD, Jeni, wcwtay, Ruok, Thiang, Posh, Jaschocolate and Waffles.Second was the Children's Cancer Foundation. Got my hair shaved.Also had some school events for facilitating for financial literacy at Fairfield Methodist Carnival.Hmm, from what i look at my schedule, my weekends are filled up due to participation in Forex Challenge. pfft, there goes my opportunity cost in working. Interesting Laws If you change queues, the one you have left will start to move faster than the one you are in now.Law of the Telephone: When you dial a wrong number, you never get an engaged tone.Law of Mechanical Repair: After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.Law of the Workshop: Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.Law of the Alibi: If you tell your boss you were late for work because you have a flat tire, the next morning you will have a flat tire.Bath Theorem: When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.Law of Encounters: The probability of meeting someone you know increases when you are with someone you dont want to be seen with.Law of the Result: When you try to prove to someone that a machine wont work, it will!Law of Biomechanics: The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.Theatre rule: People with the seats at the furthest from the aisle arrive last. Add one more, people who wanted to leave for the washroom is also furthest from the aisle.Law of coffee: As soon as you sit down for a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold.Interesting email i have from my friend. 5th of July Last post before privatizing my blog. hahahha.This coming Sat, and also for the first time in donno how many years, i will be celebrating my birthday with YuNz and other barflies.Im already mentally prepared for all kinds of birthday treatment on that day.As for my actual birthday which is the following Saturday, i think my whole banking cohort is celebrating with me. hahaha. because we will be having a bazaar at Woodlands Civic Plaza.I think on that day, i will be spotted with a new look due to shaving of hair for the Children's Cancer Foundation. Doubutsu Uranai Got this website from Ah9.You are Silver Fawn, who don't show emotions openly.People think you are easy to get on, because of your gentle and modest character.However, you are really an extremely proud person, and will not compromise easily.You live truthfully to your beliefs.You will not easily withdraw your opinion.Sometimes you get pestered like young children.You dream of leading life as a maverick.But in reality, you respect duty and obligation, and are kind person.On the other hand, you tend to observe your circumstances with an observant eye.You show great identity, and are very clear on what you like and dislike.Once you dislike something, you will not come to like it again.You are also indifferent to things.You do not care much about getting promotions, your relationship with someone you are going out with, and so on.If you take interest in arts and literature, your talent may open up, and a turning point of your life will arrive.You are loyal to something that you consider a life-work.You should be the head of your own business.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Quite true but i dont think im a proud person. I still think humble is the way to go. Long overdue Sorry for the lack of updates as i use the whole 2 weeks to shake legs at home.This is the picture that i took from Batam. And this is the charcoal that doesnt need solid fuel to burn. It just look so easy and simple for future BBQ. My Way I didnt know that i will be the one that is stopping the rot in my family's problems till i had a discussion with my parents.I was surprised to see my family's reaction and hear a positive answer from them. Nobody have ever convinced my father until today. This morning. Great.The discussions look promising at the moment, only hope is that my dad does not have any second thoughts in it.If things goes according to plan, 1st July 2008 will be a turning point for my family. *Fingers crossed* Bad day You know you are having a bad day on the field.............that lasts 16 mins. Public Relations I donno whether is it just me feeling this way or people just love to screw up their image in handling public relations.I mean, was there a need to go up to the person and say whatever you like, without going through the brain, in the process of hurting the person in front of everyone? Is just like you tell the person how they should do it according to your expectations.Heck, even if you want to do it, at least do it with a tact or just keep quiet. As a saying goes, "certain things are better left unsaid." Even if die die want to say, at least pull the person to one side and inform lah. By carrying out the above actions, it speaks alot of the person. Final decision It seem that my previous post have caused an inconvenience. Actually i purposely post up just to disturb YuNz. Im still wondering what happened if i never tell her what i have observed. Hmm..After deliberating for so long, i have finally come to make a decision and that is to make my blog private.I have seen my stats increase to 1 fold but im not worried about the increase in readership. There are quite a number of incidents which have happened, but it didnt appear on my blog. So to minimize repercussions or getting the wrong impression, i decide to take this route all by myself. Guess im used to it already.I will privatize my blog on 30 June. My only request is that even if you want access to it, im afraid that i might not accept to it. 離開地球表面 - 五月天 ＊丟掉手錶　丟外套 丟掉背包　再丟嘮叨 丟掉電視　丟電腦 丟掉大腦　再丟煩惱 衝啥大　衝啥小　衝啥都有人唱反調 恨得多　愛得少　只想越跳越瘋 越跳越高　把地球甩掉 ＃一顆心撲通撲通的狂跳 一瞬間煩惱煩惱煩惱全忘掉 我再也不要〔想〕再也不要 　委屈自己一秒 ＋一顆心撲通撲通的狂跳 一瞬間煩惱煩惱煩惱全忘掉 我甩掉地球地球甩掉　只要越跳越高 重唱　＊ 野心大　膽子小　跳舞還要靠別人教 恨得多　愛得少　只想越跳越瘋 越跳越高　把地球甩掉 重唱　＃,＋ 我甩掉地球地球甩掉　只要越跳越高 COME ON 重唱　＃,＋ 我甩掉地球地球甩掉　只要越跳越高 COME ON JUMP (x8)PS: YuNz, im learning this song to "woo" you, ok? Bwaahahahhahaha. =p Role Model Can anyone give me the best definition of a role model? The meaning of a role model?To me, a role model is a person that gives you sound advices in life, teach you the ropes in life and provides a leeway to give you a headstart in life. This role model can be anyone so long he/she have these 3 criteria. Not too much or difficult to ask from a role model right.I know that this decision would not bode down well as it may sound controversial and sudden. But what are the chances of a role model that you expecting, did a mistake that tarnish all the advices, the teachings and been a provider that you have been so faithfully follow, lose all the faith that you have in him/her?Yes, i know that a role model is not perfect. He/she is also prone to mistakes. Somehow, i feel that this mistake can be avoided. But to God's will, it have to run its course.Somehow, my faith in him/her have wavered to such manner that i have to distance myself towards him/her.Anyway, im going to take a break from blogging. I think i have also lost the passion for blogging already. Hope the next post will be a new, refreshing and something different from my mundane lifestyle. What girls don't know Got this from JFGo figure. Not wholly true but have pretty much that are quite accurate. Guys, you know which ones are true.Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.Guys will do anything just to get you to notice himGuys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest.Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.Guys get jealous easily.Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know somethings' up.If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking of something.Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.If you are going to reject a guy, just do it. Don't say they are like a brother or just good friends, it just hurts even more. Tell them that you aren't interested in a relationship and they will respect you.Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible. Test of Trust Do you know that, "the best time to see a person's character and personality is when he have to react to a situation?"But if the situation is new to him, how do you think he will react to it? Fail, people would lose expectation in you. Pass, the expectations will be higher the next time round.I know that i cant please everyone or everybody. Sometimes i wonder am i too trustworthy that i have been taken for granted? Sometimes is the norms and groups that im so accustomed with, that if another new character comes in, i will automatically reject or kick it out or the worst will be putting a mask on just to please that person?Somehow, God want to replay the situation again and again in me that i able to do it and conform to people's expectations. But i cant do that as my belief in "i dont owe people a living" stands firm. Maybe is due to my stubbornness, as i found out, can work against me or to my advantage.I cant really relate these problems to any Tom, Dick or Harry as the best solution is just keep quiet about it. Sometimes i feel that too much information have been fed to me more than i could take it in.Sometimes i just want to tell everyone that, "whatever you do, dont come and tell me. If you think that you are doing right or correct, go ahead and do it. Unless if you are stuck with a problem." But these words just cant uttered out.Till then, life goes on.Sorry if this is an incoherent post. Just need a place to rant. Children Cancer Foundation I will be joining Shelled and her family for a charity cause by shaving our hair off.Im not asking for much. But im intending to hit a minimum target of $200.You could make a contribution here and we are more than willing to shave our hair off to help the children.Thank you very much for the contribution and able to help the children. Plush Gotham These are the 2 places that we went just now, Plush Bar and Gotham Penthouse.Someone's liver got taken away by the DPL's treatment.We have great fun taking scandalous pictures of the birthday boy been drunkard.Finally for the third time, i managed to last the whole event. And still sober.*check liver* heng, still here. 7 meme What are the chances of 3 barflies targeting the same person and in return, forever aiming me? No wonder he do meme such a breeze that he already have the targets in mind.7 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME:1. I love and dare to try out new things.2. Im actually a very lazy person.3. I dont like to study.4. I like to go against people's decisions.5. Im still a lousy drinker.6. I like to observe people. 7. My new hobby is shooting with an air pistol. 7 THINGS THAT SCARE ME: 1. Deadline for projects yet nothing is been done.2. Girls come crying and asking for advices.3. Passing through Little India on a weekend.4. Not able to provide for family.5. Not enough time6. Exams and common tests7. Dreams that come true to me. 7 RANDOM MUSIC AT THE MOMENT:1. 离开地球表面 - 五月天2. Hey There Delilah - Plain White T's3. If That's Ok With You - Shayne Ward4. The Middle - Jimmy Eat World5. Vindicated - Dashboard Confessional6. In the Morning - Razorlight7. What I've Done - Linkin Park 7 THINGS I SAY THE MOST:1. Wah lao.2. WTF!3. Siao!4. Hey5. Eh?6. Er..7. KNS 7 THINGS I TREASURE THE MOST(in no ranking order): 1. Family2. Buddies3. Friends4. Trust5. Freedom6. Observant skills7. Meet people for meals, movies or la-kopi7 “FIRST TIME” THINGS I EVER DID: 1. Walk into a girls' toilet in primary school. (1991)2. Drove my uncle's car without supervision (2003)3. Getting third in my NS Dog Trial (2006)4. Response and activate own team for a case of illegal immigrants entering Singapore (2005)(Was on guard duty when the most dreadful telephone set rings and got to write down the details, location of the illegal immigrants landed and activated the team)5. Accept Christ as my personal saviour (1999)6. Punch my buddy for the wrong comment made in Toy 'R' Us. (1998)7. Traveled to Penang with my NPCC friends. (1997)7 PEOPLE TO DO THIS: 1 - 7. Anyone! Batam Trip The reason of this trip is to see an insight of how an entrepreneur works. Not one, but two. And siblings somemore. Both of them are ex-NP students graduated from Business Studies diploma.The way they think is really out of the box. And the solutions given, the proposals they come out with, the plans they think of really amazes me. Even they eat, also can come out with a business plan out of the blue.I have pictures taken from my handphone about an innovative product (too bad not created by them) that is currently not seen in Singapore supermarkets yet. But it will comes to our shore in the near future. The product is burning charcoal without the use of solid fuel. BBQ is going to be so easy the next time round. Dont believe? Pictures will say a thousand words. Pardon me as i could only upload the pictures during the weekend.This is not the only industry they are specializes in. They are also into entertainment, restaurants, pubs, hotels and cable television (biggest player in Batam).It was really an enriching trip that textbooks cant teach you. If there is another time, im not hesitate to go again. Back!! Just back from Batam with my tutor and 61 others. It was a non-school activity. Actually it was a one-night stay but due to Vesak Day and lots of locals going back, we have to stay another night at there. I wasnt really bothered about the hiccup as i get to know my tutor more. Hehehehe..Traffic was chaotic but in an orderly manner. There were very few traffic lights. The first time i experience the way they drive, my balls were in my mouth. Singaporean drivers will stop immediately when they see the front car stop and then move off again. But not for them, they wont stop even if the front car stop, they somehow have this instinct that the car will move off straight away. And when they stop, the bumper of the front car CANNOT be see. Their driving skills literally put me at ease after a few rides with them.Food was fantastic. Thank God that i didnt have any problem. We even saw A&W there. Man, the thought of waffles with ice cream just couldnt stop me. *slurps*The hosts were equally fantastic. We only pay for the ferry ride, and the rest they handle. Food, accommodation and transport.We shopped for clothes and i went there literally a rich man. hahahha, due to the currency exchange. 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