What exactly does marriage comprise of? Yst evening, I was home with Gracie and we saw "My Best Friend's Wedding" on HBO. Those of you familiar with the show, could probably relate it to the recent movie named "Made of Honour"... Well, it is abt the female lead, Julia Roberts, notified that her best friend is getting married and realise that she has always been in love with him all this while. Then she was invited to be the maid of honour, or Bridesmaid, by the fiancee. Then the whole series of things happening, where Julia basically try everything to break them up...The thought came to my mind, "What exactly does a marriage comprise of?" and where exactly is the turning pt? Turning pt as in, when can you say, "I have decided not to get married"... Is that possible? Coz in the show, the leads were trying to cancel the wedding the day before the wedding... I understand that there are people who get cold feet and stuff... But what if you realise that there is something so difficult to accept in your future partner the day before the wedding? Do you back out? Or jus carry on... One of the main reason why I think there are so many divorces in the world, is the serious lack of proper choices.... They din choose properly when they got together, they din choose properly how they wan to live their life... and when one party comes interfering in another's life, all hell's break loose... The other aspect is communication. Due to the stupid nature of society now, couples no longer communicate like our parents' time... I used to hear my parents chatting late into the night abt what to do with my english becos it is so poor, and whether or not, they should hire a tuition teacher for me.... This among other things they talked abt... But basically, they talked... With the fast-paced life, this usually do not happen.... we often forgot the basic things in life, which resulted in terrible disasters happening... LA - San Franc The next 3 days are to San Franc... The same thing happened, we woke up at quite an early timing to be picked up for the main station bus change... The trip was as usual tiring... However, unlike the trip to LV, the drive to San Franc is very scenic, becos we are almost by the coast the whole day... You can see some small towns by the coast, with some small estates by the beach... But with San Franc being so cold throughout the yr, I seriously wonder if the beach is fun at all... But it would sure be nice to stay next to the beach... We stopped by 2 places. One is a town called Solvang, which is a town with a lot of Danish immigrants... And due to that, there is a very high Danish flavour in this town... The products, the buildings are all similar to those in Denmark... The next stop is Hearst Castle... Unlike the castles in Europe with long history and stories of royalties, this castle was owned by a super rich newspaper tycoon in US. His mother brought him up loving art, so he spent the latter part of his life collecting art pieces, artifects to be incorporated into his castle. His castle has more than 100 rooms, each room space is definitely bigger than an average hotel room. But what is amazing is, the tour guide for the castle actually said, he owned so much of the land nearby the castle, that when he stand in his main bedroom balcony, "Whatever he sees, he owned them".... And this castle is built on high ground, so you can imagine how much land he owned then... Goodness... The next day was spending on going around San Fran, including the famous flower street, and of coz the Golden Gate Bridge... We also visited another popular tourist attraction which is Pier 39.... we spent our lunch there, and fortunately, the EURO08 final was on tv in one of the restaurants.... How cool... I missed almost the entire EURO08 due to preparation of wedding, renov, moving, honeymoon in US, at least, I din miss Torres's goal that win the EURO.... By the time we finished it was abt 3+... and we took a bus ride to the next hotel. Luckily for our bus, we get to stay in a 5-star casino hotel. The hotel is new and nice... the funny thing is, we were entitled to get a international buffet at US$10. And will get a card with slots machine with $10 inside as credit. In the end, I won $11 with that card...Next day, is to Yosemite National Park. The views aint as nice as Grand Canyon, but the weather is definitely not as hot... so it was more cooling than anything else... The hoover dam stop was brief... Though I recognise some of the areas used to shoot the Transformer Movie... Sea World - Las Vegas The second day was a nice trip to San Diego harbour and Sea World.... The harbour is cool... I have never see so many aircraft carriers together at one time before... Man, if I am in US, it will be cool to join the military there... We took a short boat ride around the bridge and the harbour, and proceed to Sea World. This theme park isnt exactly big very big, but it is nice. The animal shows were all really enjoyable, and if you happen to go there, pls do not miss any of the shows... from Shamus to dolphines, to sea lions... The 3rd day was a tiring long drive to LV, it is quite torturing actually. Though I only met up with the rest of the bus at 9am, while the other passengers had to wake up at 6+ to meet at 7, Gracie and I were still a little jet lagged. The trip there was sweetened by a stopover in between to one of the big "discount outlet" store. According to the tour guide, discount outlet store came abt when some big brand manufacturers want to burn their defective items... there you go...Arriving at LV at abt 530pm. Gracie and I took the 1.5 hrs break to go and shop ard the old Vegas area, the one that Li Nan Xing shot in one of the TCS gambling movies. Dinner was followed by a night tour, extra from the tour guide (which means paying), to some of the nicer night places, including the Venetian and the musical fountain. I took a shot at one of the slots machine playing for abt 30min, with 10 bucks. and end up, I made 1 buck... wth... waste of time...The next day see us spending the day at Grand Canyon... and WHAT A SIGHT !!!! It is just amazing how nature made this grand sight... We decided to spend money on a Helicopter ride which brought us to the Colorado River which is at the bottom of the canyon... all I can say is WOW !!! In the evening, we realised one of the discount outlet centre is nearby and decided to take a cab there. Unfortunately, they closes at 9pm, so we had abt 2 hours plus to shop... I managed to find adidas and nike discount outlets and get some socks and shorts... The shoes were not exactly very much cheaper, so I decided to pass on them... Gracie bought a load of items from Osh Kosh and some other branded outlets.... The 5th day was another long drive back to LA.... With the discount outlet stop again. This time, I managed to get a couple of items for my 2 beautiful receptionists during my wedding... We reached LA abt 6+, but we only got to our hotel at almost 8pm during to the multiple drop-offs to the various hotels... Seriously, why can't they just put everyone in the same hotel? sigh... I will upload some pics once I get them ready... Wedding Over, and Honeymoon !!! Finally the wedding is over, and I have some time to rest. These 3 mths have been hectic to say the least. But somehow, my life is becoming like that... work, going home, meeting up with friends... It hasnt been easy to change job. Life was about gossiping, lunching, bitching, most of all, friends and more friends... my new job scope hasnt allow me to do that... less chatting... pple r doing their own work most of the time... and my performance bonus for this yr is sure lousy, i really dun hv motivation to work... now the motivation is abt the money i m getting on every 10th... thats all... and preparing for the future. If I have sufficient savings to leave the force now, and not worried for 6 mths, I WILL !!! fact of matter is, the wedding and hse have drained a huge portion of my money, leaving me little for emergency, least to say, job changing... and when the promotion comes, it was just too tempting... funny, that i even went to Bugis Guan Yin temple to get a divine lot. The key sentence was, The time is not ripe to achieve your ambitions. Indeed, I do have an ambition in mind, and working towards it. Life in USA has been fun. I din noe it was a peak season with many asians, and locals traveling at the same time. And while I chose LA as my destination, so did a lot of people. The first day was fine. Reaching LAX at 1130am certainly helped the situation. By the time I got to my hotel, it was 230pm. Of coz, there is some jet lag to consider. I was glad I took the flights which has a transit stop at Tokyo. God bless... At least, I got some time to stretch my legs and body. The second day was to San Diego Sea World. We got a little hiccup with lunch. As per all theme parks, they want to squeeze every penny out of you. So I brought lunch from the San Diego bay, so Gracie and I have to finish the food outside before going in. The park was fun... the Shamu and dolphin show were fantastic. We also got to see the other exhibits by the end of the day. 4 Weeks to Wedding It is almost exactly 4 weeks to my wedding, everything is falling in place... But it seems like there is a lot to be done... goodness... Indeed, throughout the entire preparation, I learned tons of things... And I have to warn guys who are thinking of getting married and having a flat at the same time... It is SIONG !!!! seriously... let me jus put everything in place to share...Wedding Banquet : abt 1k per table (swissotel)Photographer and Videographer : 1.7k (Injack Studio)Bridal Studio Package : 3.4k + 1k (My Bridal Room) Car Rental : $240 (BMW 3 series)Actual Day's Ang Bao prep : 1.5kGifts giving Day "Ransom" : hopefully 1kProjector Rental : $150Flower Girl Dress : $50Page Boy suit : $50ROM Photographer : $260 (www.limkokwee.com)Wedding Bands : $2kEngagement Ring : $6kFenghsui consultancy for wedding date : $400Honeymoon : Potentially $10k.Wine + Liqour : Budget-ed $400Looking at the amount, I almost want to kill myself... haha... But one thing I am glad is to see a lot of friends during my wedding... friends I dun get to see often, but miss so much... Sometimes I like attending wedding coz of these... the people you get to see and chat with...Alright, 4 weeks and counting... down that is... When you are rich, you need not be an as*&%$e... Few days ago, Gracie and I went to Jalan Kayu for lunch. We just happened to be using the Tampines Expressway so we decided what the heck... it has been a long time since we had prata... Anyway, after the prata, I remember that there used to be this really cheap electrical appliance shop there many yrs ago, so we proceed to take a walk along tat row of shops... And guess wat, we found a Otak shop which has a bloody queue in the middle of the day... So we decided to buy a few to try as well... As Gracie and I was nearer the end, I went to get the car and this is what happen...A well-dressed rich auntie came along and saw the queue (there was only 3 person in it). She went str to the shop (which is the front of the queue) and ask the Otak asst if that is the queue. Naturally they said YES. She then ask of the price of the small otak which cost 40 cents each. Den she asked the shop keeper if she need to queue, the asst looked at her and told her the queue is all the way to the back. She passsed a comment, "so long ah". Then she said the bigger otaks and ask if she buy that, does she need to queue? the asst said no one had ordered that yet, so she can skip the queue. (the asst asked a few persons at the front of the queue to get orders). When she asked how much, they told her it's $1.20. She gave a "wah, so expensive" face and went on to check with the Gracie (who is 2nd in the queue) and ask her how many she is buying. Gracie told her 10, when it comes to the 1st lady in the queue, she said "30" !! So she tried to ask the shop keeper if she can skip the queue, the asst told her, the queue is there, pls queue. Then she LL got to queue.Frankly, from the rich people I have known from all walks of life... There are some bad ones, but mostly are good and nice people. I mean, there is only 3 person in the queue, just wait for a while. Anyway, fyi, Gracie and I waited abt 15 min for the otak. Why do this auntie have to try all sorts of ways to skip the queue? She is not even those very old type, probably late 40s, early 50s. Does it mean that when u r rich u need not do the things which others do? KNS ah... all I can say this, Auntie, if you dun wan to queue, dun eat lo... !!! Renovation Pics Hacked !!!!Hacked !!!Hacked !!!!BalconyKitchenKitchenCoincidentially, my fridge is same height as my Washer plus Dryer...Ledge in Living RoomShoe CabinetCommon Toilet lightsLiving Room lightsMaster Bed Room dividerMaster Bed Room ceilingMaster Bedroom toiletMaster Bedroom toilet How do you know what you want? It is funny how young girls or guys think. Especially those who are in a relationship... Last year, I posted an entry about 2-D... in character, in choosing bf esp... A recent event made me think abt another dimension of little girls... The non-directional one... What do I mean? I think many girls before the age of 26 will agree with me that they dunno what they wan in life... I bet that if I do a survey with girls under 26, and ask them two basic questions, 1) What do you want your life to be when you are 30? and 35? I think most of them ROUGHLY know how to answer me... But when I go into the specifics? I doubt so...Why do I say that? In my opinion, girls tend NOT to set targets for themselves... They tend to have the "see how it goes", or "follow the crowd" mentality... Mind you, I am not being a sexist here... But I think this is also one of the reasons why there are less successful business-woman than businessman... Guys on the other hand, sometimes are too "dreamy"... setting themselves too many targets... Most of them seems realistic... Just whether the guys are going towards them....So how do you know what you want? I think a simpler way is to ask yourself the basic question, "What do you want to be when you are 30?" or any other age and so on... Then divide your answers into 2 categories, personal and work.... seriously, our life revolves into this two very conflicting but necessary sections... BUT, please do take into account what is your current situation now....Another way is what I termed as the "next target" plan.... Firstly, look at your personal life, and ask yourself, "what is the next? and next? and next?" then fix a date to those milestones... I guess for work, it is pretty straight-forward... The difficult portion is probably love life. So, if you have a gf? What is next? DUH... of coz, it is marriage. So ask yourself, "Is your current gf the person you imagine to be living with you when you are married? when you have kids? when you are old? Is the current lifestyle you imagine with your wife?" If not, pls re-think on your relationship... If yes, make plans... I think a lot of people hesitate on marriage simply becos they hv the wrong concept... They think that in order for marriage to take place, they need to KNOW their partners inside-out... But that is not the case... Take note, MARRIAGE IS A JOURNEY OF UNDERSTANDING... so the only burning question is, do you WANT to understand this person? Life is fair? NEVER!! I had some emotions on the topic a couple of days ago... I was at a hawker centre eating... After a while, while waiting for my food, this auntie, looked at late 30s came and asked abt my coke can, which is still pretty full... Then came this old lady, probably past 60 going to 70 or even older, trying to sell two gentlemen sitting at my table, 2 packets of tissue... "50 cents?", as she placed the 2 packets on the table... the guy sitting nearer to her, just told her, "dun wan"... she turned nasty and said, "u mean u dun hv 50 cents to help an old lady like me? my life is tough !!!"... the two men continue with their curry rice and ignored her... she had no choice but to walk away...After a while, the two gentlemen finished with their food and left. So, me and gracie was alone at the table. Then came a chinaman, trying to sell tissue also. He took out his tissue, stretched out his hand, and waved the tissue at us... We are not short of tissue, so I said, "dun wan"... But he continue doing his tissue-waving... and it become pretty irritating... Worse of all, while he is waving, he looked at the sky and not at me... as if I owe him money and better returned him... I stared at him, and he turned to see if I had changed my mind, I think he was a little stunned by the fact that I am looking at him with a "FO" look...I dunno why, but the thought of the unfairness in life came to me... Life is hard enuff for our sme Singaporeans who earned little, trying to survive... But came along these foreign workers, who are trying to snatch business from them... Worst !! this bloody guy from China is not even disabled or something, he is a fully fit and able young man... Go find a job for God sake !!! Gridiron Gang It never changes my feeling, no matter how many times I watched this movie... Today, I watched it again on HBO, I cant help but feel touched... It is based on a true story abt a American football coach, setting up a team in a juvenile jail. His aim to use sportsmanship, discipline of the game, and team spirit to reduce the fact that 75% of them actually returned to adult jail after they were released.Recently, one of my colleagues was stirred for some stupid thing, and I felt disgusted by the ball carrying act, and decide to send out a nasty mail. Sometimes, I just dun understand why all these Jo-bro-ni can just stab their frens to gain a little favour from their bosses. I mean, seriously, does this little stabbing get you that far ahead of everyone? I doubt so... and frankly, disgusted is probably too weak a word to use. If I live in the ancient, uncivilised society, I would probably spit my phlegm on that person. KNS ah... Lose a match due to fitness again... It is sad... when u played a soccer match and lose due to fitness... Wat can I say? today, my frens and I played a match at Tampines SAFRA... we were losing by 3-0 at halftime, mainly due to counter attacks... and in the 2nd half, we fought to 3-3... and we looking for the win... but the lack of fitness let us down... sadly to say... and lose, by the way... Credit to Sing Ping for getting 3 goals, and Amos for doing a fantastic job at centreback, until he was injured... If not for his injury, we would hv a better chance of winning...Tremendous spirit by the guys... of coz myself included... I actually got the assist for the 1st of 3 goals... Though shortly after tat, my stupid Nike soccer boots gave way... I hereby announce my support for Nike, down the drain... though I usually prefer Adidas stuff... But Nike shoes are usually not very durable... seriously seriously... My previous soccer boots Diadora last me for almost 4 yrs and is still doing fine and in a box inside my store room right now... Happiness is relative? Is happiness relative? I seem to think so... Why do I say that? For example... If you like someone, you can be doing simple things like watching a DVD, just window shopping, eating at a jap restaurant, you will enjoy yourself.... In a way, you find happiness in the things you do... However, assuming you dun like the person, when you are doing the same things, do you hv that feeling? Is the happiness level the same? I dun think so... That's y I say happiness is relative to a lot of factors, time, place, person, atmosphere... doesnt mean a romantic candlelight dinner is definitely a happier thing to do than just simple walk down the beach... Fruit for thoughts... Women Married hoping to change their partner, Men Married hoping the partner dun change This is something interesting I find abt men and women... I heard it over class95, and realise it is very true... well, at least to my own experience... Anyway, to start off, let me put down the Top 5 reasons why couples divorce, from divorce360.com1) Verbal/Physical Abuse2) Money3) Someone new in the relationship (may not be a third party)4) Sex (High on men's list and low on women's)5) matters on ChildrenIt is funny how high money is ranked so high... As relationships move from getting together, to getting married... Money plays a more and more important role in their life... With the world women crying out for equality for sexes, there are still a large percentage of women who thinks their bf or other half, should pay for meals, movie tics, and soon, items for marriage will follows... This is sometimes the root of arguments and disagreements... I think in SG, the abuse portion is not tat high as in overseas, where booze is usually the problem of abuse. In SG, pple tends to be more rationale with things, though I did hear a few instances where the female half is the abusive one...Back to the title topic... I think it is really true... Mainly becos when women get together with men, they tend to get together thinking that he WILL be the one... rather than he MIGHT be the one... and in the process, they try to get the guy to do things which they expect of their dream guy... and hoping they will get used to doing those things...On the other hand, men usually end up accepting the girl they choose... But hope tat they are not influenced to change over the many years of relationship... Not influenced by Tai Tais, by frens ard them...But as I mentioned in many of my post, changes are inevitable in any relationship, or anything... it is usually how we manage the change.... To accept it, to moderate it, or to reject it... those are the choices we need to make day in day out, not only in relationships but in almost every situation we may find ourselves in... Maroon 5 - Won't Go Home without you This is one of those songs I keep hearing on radio and slowly loving it... Enjoy Jay Chou - Rainbow The Dogz Manager In the last post, I mentioned abt the big 4 and their fans' reaction. This time, I am going to talk abt Liverpool.Yst night, Liverpool just allowed a 80th-min goal in and drop 2 points, again. No matter how much Rafa tickles, you can never understand how he plays his tactics in English game. To be fair to all the rest of EPL, Rafa has a team of deep strength. He has some reserves on the bench who can easily walk into another EPL team in the top half of the table. With 4 strikers, what is he playing with only 1 forward? at home? He started the game with a 4-4-1-1 formation. With due respect to Gerrard, he will only be that effective if there is 2 forwards to divert attention away from him.His explanation for 1 forward is that he expect the opponents to defend deep, and want to pull the opponents out to create space for Gerrard to exploit. But what is the point of space when u hv only 1 person to aim for?Pls Hicks, Gilliet, sack Rafa, sell Sissoko, Aurelio and Kuyt, get a decent striker like Anelka !!! Why ManUre is the most Hated team by other club's fans? The title says it all... But how come? In all due respect to Chelsea, Man Utd still remains the most hated fans among the other clubs' fans... including yours truly... Year in Year out in the 90s and early 2000s, I have heard the same thing said among these fans, "Even if my club dun win, pls let Man Utd lost"...Some time ago, I really dunno why this is so... I mean, they have a fantastic manager, great players and still counting, but what is wrong with them? In recent few years, Chelsea has taken over that place of most hated for a while... And I think that is largely due to certain "special one" who always irritate other clubs' fans by saying nasty things... and of coz, with their brand of effective but not so entertaining football... For me, I would like to categorise most hated by a few behaviours... here they are1) Diving - Among the big fours, Man U and Chelsea are known to have the most "clever" divers in the EPL or even europe... Sometimes when there are NO contact, they fall as if a truck hit them... Man U has the famous Ronaldo to lead the pack, with Tevez following close behind... Chelsea, with a certain Ivory Coast striker named Drogba to lead the team in diving classes... Arsenal has a tendency to want to pass the ball into the net, giving them hardly any time to think abt how to get a penalty in the box or getting a player booked... Being a Pool fan, I shall not comment on them...Winner : Man U2) Surrounding and pressuring the Ref : This is a clear cut win by Chelsea... Ever since Jose took over, Chelsea has this new culture of pressuring the ref with a few "imitating players" surrounding him... Non of the big 4 comes close...Winner : Chelsea3) Unsportsmanship conduct : Man U will be the clear winner here... Judging by the number of times they are guilty of such conduct, from yst's match against Birmingham, to the trickery of getting players booked, or even kicking pple, they are ranked up there with the best of the old bad boys of Bolton Wanderers...Winner : Man U4) Over-Aggressive plays : As mentioned above, they tend to kick players with two footed tackles and stuff... This is esp true when they are losing or even not leading... This is clear in the previous matches where they lost, against Man City earlier in the season, and West Ham more recently... You can say that frustration runs in their head... But that is no excuse for you to try to break a fellow professional's legs...Winner : Man UClearly, the answer is clear... With no disrespect to Man U, they are a great team, their football can be breath-taking sometimes, punishing opponents with every mistake they made... And they definitely know how to win "ugly"... However, being a club with so many fans, it is important to have proper role models... A club or player who teaches the correct values... As I have told everyone who went to TLK's hse, Ashton will have the right values if he follows his father's footsteps... Dun be Conned by Seller's Agent Buying HDB flat? You don't need to pay seller's agent Case gets more complaints from buyers without agents who are misled into paying such commissions By Tan Hui YeeMANY HDB flat buyers who bypass estate agents to make their purchases are still being fleeced for thousands of dollars in commissions - by the sellers' agents.The Consumers Association of Singapore (Case) has received a growing number of complaints from home buyers who were unaware they are not required to pay the fees but who were misled into coughing them up.Independent buyers complain that the sellers' agents inform them they have to pay the commissions just before the purchase documents are signed. This leaves the buyers with little time to find out their rights.The buyers, in fact, can opt out of paying the fee - usually 1 per cent of a flat's price - if they say upfront that they will not be using the agent's service. This means the buyer will have to do the paperwork himself.Case received 85 complaints about the payment of commissions last year, up from 60 the year before. In the first two months of this year, 11 such complaints were received.The complaints are rising at a time when more buyers and sellers are choosing to deal without agents. According to the Housing Board, 3 per cent of last year's 31,000 resale housing applications - about 930 deals - were made via its online e-Resale system, which caters specifically to buyers and sellers dealing without agents.The figure has gone up from 2.5 per cent in 2004 and 2 per cent the year before. Property agencies say more buyers than sellers usually choose to go it alone.The Institute of Estate Agents receives an average of 30 inquiries a month on the payment of commissions.There is no law fixing the fees to be paid to agents for property purchases. Agents hired by HDB flat sellers tend to charge independent buyers a 1 per cent commission.This fee is usually not levied on those buying private property independently. The managing director of C&H Realty, Mr Albert Lu, said this is because there are more restrictions on people buying HDB flats - on their age and marital status, for example - and therefore more paperwork to process.The assistant vice-president of property agency ERA Singapore, Mr Eugene Lim, added: 'Ninety per cent of HDB flat buyers don't have the time, or don't know the procedures. The agent has to walk the buyer through the whole process.'But buyers like Ms Jessica Tee, 32, beg to differ. The bank manager and her husband, who bought a four-room flat in Pasir Ris last year for $250,000, said they were misled by the seller's agent into paying the fee.The agent asked them to sign an agreement stating that they would pay him the fee while sealing the deal for the flat.Ms Tee said: 'It didn't feel very right. It was a bit strange, because he didn't represent us. But he said it was procedural.'They gave him the benefit of the doubt and signed the form, only to find out later that it was optional. Ms Tee said she would have done the paperwork herself if she had known beforehand that a fee was payable.Both Case and the property agencies approached - ERA, C&H and PropNex - stated that agents have the responsibility to make it clear to independent buyers upfront that they would be charging a fee.But Mr Lu conceded it was unlikely many agents would voluntarily tell buyers they could opt out of paying. He advised buyers to broach the topic before agreeing to the deal.Case executive director Seah Seng Choon stated: 'Home buyers should not pay a commission if they have not consented to using the service of the agent.'Everyone, this is a classic example of "not finding out the details" before you jumped into something. Recently, I also bought a flat. I decided that since I will become a property agent next time, let me just find out all details, and practise. Like the victims mentioned, the Seller's agent also tried to get 1% from me. I questioned her, "From my HLE appeal, to my viewing of 10 flats, to Housing Grant appeal, I dun tink you help in any way. So what have you done to deserve the 1% from me?" The only thing she did was to negotiate the COV from the initial request of $25k, to the finalised $18k. From that and the rest of the paper work, I agreed to give abt 1/5 of the original 1%, mainly due to the price negotiation. Have you ever thought abt how to get over Breaking up? Today, I was watching this movie called "The holiday". There is this conversation I think is very right. You see, Kate Winslet was telling jack Black abt how she was "coping" with breaking up with the bf who was actually two-timing her... This is roughly what she said"It doesn't really matter how many parties you go to, how many drinks you have, how many gyms you join... but every night you go to bed, the same details of that awful breakup re-play in your brain over and over again in a split second... And you go out and meet someone who makes you feel worthwhile again... then you start to think more abt yourself, less abt the past relationship, before you have the courage to even date someone..."When I heard it, what I said was "wow"... but it is true... and probably what I been thru a year plus ago... I guess getting over a breakup is something which a lot, or all of us been thru at least once in our lifetime... Being Dr Love, dun necessarily protect me from the awful feeling.... But somehow, I think what was said is mostly right... The best way to quickly get over the feeling of breaking up, is to someone who makes you feel more worthy again... Need not be someone whom you can go after or something, preferably someone whom understand you... close, and easy to talk to... basically, set things in perspective again... Life is not just abt being with someone... but finding meaning in what you do... But everyone needs help after they broke up... So frens, if you happen to be able to help in something like tat, pls do... for you never noe when u might need help yourself... Why is there such a stupid thing as wisdom tooth? Yst, I took out 2 wisdom tooth on the left side of my mouth... and I tell u the experience isnt at all, pleasant. It is torturing... And to think that I have to go thru it one more time next mth for my right side give me the creeps...My left face cheek is now swollen like a pig... And I have to eat just on one side of my mouth so as not to affect the wound... Goodness...Ladies and gentlemen, can someone explain to me why is there such a torturing and stupid thing such as wisdom tooth?Becos it is going to cause me pain eventfully, I have to remove it... But in the midst of removing it, I go thru lots of pain too.... so what the heck... Life is filled with the weirdest things, and this I tink is one of them... KNS ah !!! What / Who do you live for? It is funny when you think abt life, that there is a thousand and one things you could be doing... But what or who do you live for? Someone old and "wise" ever said this, if you nvr been in love all your life, you wasted your life. What abt some others who live to thrill? They thrives on challenges, challenges beyond most human capacity...So have you ask yourself the magic question? I know of some frens who are willing to do anything for someone they love... Sometimes, even things which they know is harmful to them... I ever read articles abt girls who became prostitutes just to pay off the husband's gambling debts... Is it worth it? Helping this one person whom claimed to love you, but not do enuff to keep you out of trouble or danger.... What abt this thing called, "Being used", or lies... Sometimes, I guess things are not as simple as it appears to be...For me, I am a more rationale person... I will only do things worth doing... true, there are many things who yearns tangible rewards such as cash... But some of the things worth doing, could be for intangible things like, friendship... So at the end of the day, I guess you should ask yourself, is he/she worth what you going to do, or is the reward of this deed worth it?... The Price of Technology Just spent abt 400+ bucks on 2 items... first, is a watch... All along in my life, I always have only 1 watch at one time... to me, watch is something to see time, rather than becoming an accessory in life... Well, this is the first proof that I am not a "metro" guy like Beckham... Then again, it also means I dun have as much money as Beckham, haha... anyway, I bought a G-shock at 76 bucks... cheap I supposed, considering the fact that the one I am wearing cost a whopping 286 dollars... I have been eyeing a second watch becos I just cant stand myself watching a metal strip watch in a hot day, wearing surf shorts and Tee... just doesnt quite go... So I decided I needed a more sporty looking one...Second item is a Digital Camera from Casio Exlim... I must say cameras are getting cheaper and cheaper... Just a few yrs ago, I got one with 3.2 MegaPix at $499. This new one I bought, a simple point and shoot cam, cost only $330, and it has capable of 7.1 MegaPix. I have given up trying to keep up with the price of such technology, but is still pleasantly surprised at how cheap technology is becoming... Then again, it also means my existing laptops, comps, and cameras are probably worth close to nothing now.... so it is a double-edged sword... Guys are suckers for technology and gadgets... but with technology moving so fast now... I really wonder how many guys who are earning as little as me are keeping up with the trend and technology... One Hell of a Month for me It has been a hell of a month... it is disgusting, angry, and most of all, enlightening...Many times, some of my frens are comtemplating whether to leave the organisation... For me, becos of my bond length, I choose to take a back seat and see how things go... HF's case, has been enlightening.... well, a little... but I guess such is a system planned for non-failures... Mic recently sent a email to me that says:The organisation is filled with a few capables, and many incapables...and that's how the system is built to be... well, at least at the top and middle management... other organisations usually built ard capables... the capables get rewarded... the non-capables get sacked... but that is just not the case in my organisation... well, least i got options... over the past 1/2 yr, I have been taking a cse from SHRI... it is both enriching, and eye-opening... it changes my perspective, abt the world outside mine...My choice has become clear... after so long, my own desire did not show itself tat much, except my strange urgent desire to take the course... The failure of the system, to tolerate fools at management level is something I think I dun wan to live with.... Bad workers i can tolerate, but not bad leaders.... Monocracy is something which every success organisation should NOT hv... Becos no ONE person is the greatest and have a correct and best opinion abt everything... that's my take... Jay Chou's Secret Watched this show with my Dear... I must say I was qutie skeptical abt it initially, super-famous singer, talented in music, trying his luck on movie, doing acting, AND directing... goodness... We all know that it is not easy to act and direct a movie at the same time... How many of the old birds in the movie industry actually tried their hands on this? Jackie Chan, Stephen Chow? Even Andy Lau din do it... But I must say I left the theatre impressed by his first directorship. His acting still needs lots of improvement, but the style of directing, coupled with a good screenplay was the essense that make this movie a pretty impressive one.... The style is pretty much korean-like... I also noticed that he is the one who wrote the movie story... which explain the style of the movie was very much all-thought-out by himself. This Mr Chou is really talented... who knows what he might come up with next.... SNAP point There is a certain tolerance level to everyone... Tolerance level to a lot of things... There would be a point of MAXIMUM that is usually associated with these levels, I like to term them as "Snap Point".This points set abt a chain of reaction... For example, there is a snap point to hunger. Someone will go into robbing for food, even the most ridiculous thing like robbing a little girl of her fav bread... A little more extreme, a man who is deprived of sex and have a high sex drive, could end up raping someone, who look delicious by wearing sexily... I think sometimes pple forgot that human are animals afterall... there is a limit to almost everything...Sometimes snap points are the moments where it set pple thinking... thinking abt the future, n the past... thinking abt things like, is the actions worth it? But they are moments which u lost control, moments which turn u into an animal, moments which u lost ur ability to rationalise. Life is as such.... how do u control it, is up to u.... Feeling in Love I met up with a fren recently, long wanted to know her better, but for long, din hv the chance... Anyway, it was like long lost fren catching up... I enjoyed the conversation... She actually told me abt "the feeling of being in love".... Here are some interesting descriptions....'I can still meet my frens, go out and enjoy... But I keep feeling like going back to see him''When I am with him, the surrounding world seems to fade away into the background''The night is so long, but the hours doesnt seems to be enuff for us'It is interesting what kind of feeling pple have when they are in love... For those of u who r feeling this, cherish it... For those of u who r not, I hope at least u EVER felt it... remember some unfortunate ones in this world who din even hv the chance to feel it... They are nice memories... U may feel miserable now, but u wont be miserable forever, unless if u wan to... An interesting post from SB.com Recently, I have been reading posts from Singaporebrides.com forum... Well, if u got time, take your time to go there and read abt the "matters of the heart" section of the forum... Why I say that is actually while there are many happy stories of marriage out there, there is a fair share of unsuccessful ones... Recent reports show that although there are more marriage in Singapore, there are also more divorces.... I myself sat in the court for 45 min and been thru almost 4-5 cases of divorce cases... Some are with kids, some are without...There are also other interesting posts there, like pple asking for opinions, with regards to infidelity, sex problems in marriage etc. There was this girl who had an interesting problem... She had a bf for 5 yrs, but nvr went into sex with him. They have already started their wedding preparation... One fine night, they went drinking and the bf was dead drunk, and she became cheeky and open up his pants and saw that he has a MP (Micro-penis)... Goodness.... Well, of coz this girl, not being a virgin, she knows what she is seeing... only qn is, whether it was erected fully... well, assuming that it is... What advice would you give this girl? She clearly stated that sex is an important part of marriage life... Some suggested plastic surgery, others suggest she should delay or even cancel the marriage... What would you suggest?Actually, I think she only got a few options, practical ones of coz... One, cancel the wedding, cite something else as the reason. As shallow as citing sex as a reason not to get married, she also need to keep the guy's ego, and reputation at bay. Two, talk to him and try to settle it as a couple... Go into plastic surgery, try out sex with help of toys... his condition might not be as bad as she think... Three, keep the marriage on, keep quiet, but find other ways to "sex-tify" herself. This option do has its advantages, like keeping the guy's ego intact, keeping the marriage going... But it does have its possible side effect... like if she decide to find a FB or her reliance on sex toys is found out by the husband, then quarrel may erupt... But the choice is hers.... Dr Love dun give perfect solution, he only break the problem into simplicity... Liking sex is nothing wrong, I am sure lots of pple out there will tell u that... but more often than not, your partner is not a perfect sex partner, or rather could fulfil your sexual fantasies... So sometimes it is up to us to divert these energy somewhere else... NDP 07 Preview This year, I had some more crazy idea abt watching the NDP... so yst, I booked a room at Ritz Carlton, and managed to get a room of FANTASTIC view... the room is jus above the gallery, and very near to the floating platform. Here are some pics taken from the room, with my lousy cam....empty parade square...Another one....The parade is formed...Red Lions.... or rather one Lion...The Flag arriving during the anthem... Managed to see the other spare flag behind actually... Not sure if anyone from the stands see it... the RSAF Hornets from 145 Sqn....Part of the 3D Display....The fireworks was beautiful.... I was totally into enjoying the whole firework experience than taking pics... the thing lasted for a good 10-15 min... when using the nearby tall buildings as the launch point is a great idea... I must say, this yr's committee has done a good job !!! Well Done !!! Hi everyone... Yst, while I was driving home, I heard an interesting scenario over the radio.... What happened was that this girl is tore between 2 guys... she just got together with this guy whom she met thru a common fren... after knowing and dating for a few mths, they got together... so far, abt 6 mths on... She, on the other hand, had a good fren whom she always liked... However, due to the fact that they are good frens for the longest time, she din think abt it too much... But after being with this current bf for 6 mths, she found that that this good fren had always like her...Seriously, this is a case of wrong timing... 6 mths on, this bf treats her really well... My take on this is to follow your heart... Put it in prospective, so what if this good fren is interested in her? So what if they know each other inside out? Qn will be, why din he do anything over the many yrs they known each other? A case of "next best choice" maybe? I dunno... What I m trying to say is that, it doesnt mean that the someone whom u always like may be the best partner u can hv....On the other hand, the relationship could be just in a honeymoon state, so no quarrels, no arguments... easily handled by both parties... But how long can the honeymoon state be sustained? So doesnt seems to have a concrete answer right?!In my previous entries, I always say this thing called DESIRE... it is one of the most important things in a relationship... As long as u hv the desire, u will go n find out more things abt your partner, as long as u hv desire, u will be able to push away all temptations n external factors... What is your advice for this girl?