A Break Basically I am tired, jaded, and even a little angry. Mostly at myself but also at things I see happening around me, both by and to people I care about. Being dumped (not that recently now as I look at a calendar) saw an easy return of words, which were even made easier in the last few weeks when I started to look on someone I have known for a while in a different way that I thought was Kissing I like kisses. Actually I should strike that, I like good kisses, but I love great kisses. Luckily a good kiss is not so hard to achieve, though it does require someone who likes kissing as well, and it really helps if they like kissing you as much as you like kissing them. Unfortunately the step up to a great kiss is about everything coming together at once, the place, the time, the person, 2 - 1 = 2 So the girl dumps you, or simply gives you the "I am not interested message" and instead of feeling rejected and hurt you feel relief at a choice removed and a load lessened. And yet in what seems, with hindsight, as the briefest of moments your life is again crossing paths with someone who ignites the "what if" part of your imagination... ...so you move, only to realise that not all motion is The Eyes Have It Her: well you have lovely innocent eyes Indy: do I? Her: deceivingly innocent Indy: hahahaAnd from someone else: They [your eyes] tell a story. a naughty one :PWhen someone stares at you with right amount of lust, interest and a focus that lets you know you are the centre of every thought they are having... ...well let's just say its an erotic turn on. I don't really think it matters where your Old's Cool Godfrey of Ibelin: Be without fear in the face of your enemies. Be brave and upright that God may love thee. Speak the truth always, even if it leads to your death. Safeguard the helpless and do no wrong. That is your oath. Godfrey of Ibelin: [cuffs Balian with the back of his hand] And that's so you remember it.So you want to be "Olds Cool"? Well here are five thoughts that increasingly I find Sexy Is... Watching your t-shirt ride up her curves to reveal her g-string clad PLA* as she reaches up to put something away while washing up after the breakfast you just cooked. * PLA: Pert Little Ass Last year in the Temple of Doom, Indiana unearthed: Why Is It So?Technorati Tag: The Dogs Name, Sexy Is, Women Two Groups As my limited experience of this city state continues to expand, I have started to form the opinion that the women can be divided into two groups...those you make love to, and those you make love with. Sadly it is the former group that seems to be in the majority, which really just raises the "value" of those who belong to the later. The 'To's": This group, while I would not go so far to say Love Me, Spoil Me I was going to write my 2 cents opinion on an article that appeared in The Straits Times (and I still might) but some recent exchanges that are along the same general thread that: to show a girl you love her, you have to spoil her, has gotten me thinking about materialism, gifts and basically the "purchase of love"... Interestingly one of the things that has been repeated to me from different Around The InterGeek So the most seductive woman of all time (see here) is apparently a computer generated amalgam of some Hollywood starlets and a dress made famous by Marilyn. So basically she doesn't exist, unless you are pimple faced 16 year old hacker with a penchant for VR. But what really got me were the extra tidbits of sexual gossip mentioned in the article that also came from surveys, 1. Women (apparently A Tease? Because for some the weekend is a little stretched this week... Me @ 21:52: So then. You and i dinner Friday night. What don't you eat? Me @ 21:58: And be ready for somewhere nice Her @ 22:10: Lol. You don't have to spoil me, And i'm not fussy. Me @ 22:11: But i am. And some things should be done right. So say yes and let me do what I know how to do. Her @ 22:16: Yes sir :-P btw i'm pretty Self Reconciliation The hardest thing about being cheated on, at least in my book, is this... ...you have to reconcile that the skill you thought you had in assessing people and judging character is bullshit, that you are in fact a fucking idiot, and the faith and trust you put in someone else is flawed and that the flaw originates not with them* but with you. There is no point in sugar coating it, if you are When To... Of all the rituals, rites and voodoo practices that exist in the dating ritual, nothing is so cloyed in mystique, hidden in mystery or just plain unfathomable as that of "when to call". Honestly, I am clueless. I could take the Swingers line, in which the various merits of waiting X number of days are debated, tossed around, argued before settling on the number that has become dating folklore: The Grey Date A long time ago, if you measure in years and not memories, I went to a school in which the greatest failing a student could have was to be labeled "grey". "Grey-men" were those students, who neither stood out in their excellence, nor did they make themselves noticed through their ineptitude rather they were just "grey", they blended into the background, lived under the radar and existed as people Male Revelation - 439,201 Too many women spend too much time deflating the egos of men, and while they find comfort and even enjoyment in the practice, all they succeed in doing is publically breaking the mock bravado shield designed to protect a man from life and privately they crush the self esteem of someone the claim to care for. The irony here is that the world, our jobs, the grind to "get ahead" does a perfect job A True Story... Well at least nearly as true as I can remember it, and almost as true as the fact that I am riding this bike... Living where I do in Singapore, those afternoons in which the weather decides to cooperate I am an easy amble from that great tract of parkway on the East Coast. And so, as often as my mood, inclination and the aforementioned weather allows I load up a backpack with some weight and go Canceling a Reservation I do it. Yet as I hung up the phone, I had to wonder at the surprise echoed down the line, did people just not do this anymore? Did they make reservations and then leave the venue hanging without a thought or a care as to what it says of them? I have to wonder what happened to manners? What happened to courtesy? Or thoughtfulness? Why is it now acceptable to be unrealiable or late, or to The Photo Rule I have made it no secret that in the past I have dabbled in the fringe dating area known as "online", and I say fringe because while in some countries, or rather some sub-cultures within some countries it is gaining acceptance and even being embraced, it is still a method of meeting people outside your social group that is yet to really be embraced or accepted over the more traditional, get drunk Things Said...Then Stanley: I mean it, honey. The world is being Fed-Ex'd to hell on a handcart. I really believe that anyone who's even thinking about having a child in this world...is coldly considering an act of cruelty. I know, I'm rambling, I'm complaining. I'm sorry. What's your news, baby? Carla: I'm pregnant. Stanley: I'm sorry? Carla: I'm pregnant. Stanley: Really? Carla: Yeah. Stanley: Wow! Carla: Is that Coldly Rational This morning, rather than the usual morning fog shrouded struggle to wakefulness, I was eyes open and alert about 30secs before the alarm. Alert, rested, fully awake and... ...alone. The comforting warm body snuggled next to me was absent and the quick sinking plunge pushed deeper by the flashed thought "better get used to it, she won't be there ever again"... ...and so Monday begins, after a Back 2 SQ 1 Not exactly where I thought I would be...the hum of a Departure lounge, about to head home and staring down the a path lit with neon signs that scream, "You are about to get dumped."Future plans to cancel, future hopes to dash, and future tomorrows to contemplate from a position of one. Not exactly where I thought I would be when less than a week ago with a pot orgiastic smile in breathless Ruth Fowler (nee. Foul) "I find the whole comments phenomenon pointless and gratuitous." and "Which is not to say I don't like y'all and don't appreciate the kind messages and emails you send," -Ruth Fowler Ermmm...yes it fucking is. So basically, Ruth Fowler (I am not linking it, and have deleted her link from my RSS and Blogroll) who got her break by blogging about her life being an illegal immigrant and stripping A Day To Mourn Gary Gygax the father of all D&D geeks everywhere dies at 69. (see here) As hommage to my inner geek and the hours* of fun his invention afforded me in my larval stages I will raising a glass (or three) in memory of him tonight. --- Oh and "in real life" news, one of my blog posts, after some minor editing and some additional thoughts, is to be published as a magazine column. ~grin~ * This Where Are The Words? Sometimes the words come easy, life conspires to sequester one from the living and with isolation the words just flow. Other times you get to actually live and the well of words dries as is it is spent in conversation not through dancing fingers. Which is a rather verbose, albeit possibly poetically verbose way of saying I have been busy traveling, living and enjoying the recent spat of public A Real Friend Thanks to Wombat for providing if not the inspiration at least the catalyst for this post. I have this friend (and considering it's a she we can dispense with the belief that its actually a story about me) and through a number of life circumstances (loneliness, geography, naivety, etc...) she has of late made a number of choices based around the influence and directives of her friends...ie: she To G Or Not To G Italian Scientists have discovered a test using an ultrasound to prove whether a woman has a "G Spot" or not. Note: This test is all about piece of mind. It DOES NOT promise that men will care about this spot or that they will actually be able to find it. ~grin~ Randomicity - I Sofia is wondering how guys get so ingenious when it comes to distracting a woman so they can "pick her up"...personally I have no idea...maybe its genetic, maybe its learned through trial and error or even observation but I do one thing, The easiest way to pick a woman up is with two hands...that way you don't get a hernia.--- Oh and on another note, researchers are going to study the "why" Is He Lucky? "I care not if he is skilled, but is he lucky?" - Napoleon Bonaparte How much of life is luck, the random outcome of events beyond our control or influence that ultimately means our days are not ours but rather ones of chance? If you see life as a sometimes series of victories and defeats: how many of these results in the outcomes we desire? How many times is our life really dictated by others, V Day Lusty has an interesting post about Valentines Day and her take on the shallowness of it all. And while I agree with her, I also find that buying into the commercialism is not such a bad thing. Although I try to keep it a secret, I am a little bit of a romantic, and think nothing of regularly sending flowers to my gf just to let her know that i am thinking about her and that she is important to Not Such A Bad Label Last year I was labelled, "A Scoundrel" - Eileen This year I was labelled thus, "You are an arrogant tosser, aren't you?" Which was amended less than 24 hours later with, "But you are charming." - Mdme Chiang I am still trying to work out if that was a step up, a step down, or merely some lateral movement with no net gain or loss. ~grin~ Last year in the Temple of Doom, Indiana unearthed: Is Destiny, Fate and Tomorrow This fortune has a protective layer, included for your protection.If you have lived in almost any part of Asia the Lunar Calendar, and the accompanying New Year is huge…and if that country happens to have a Chinese influenced culture then amoungst the many celebration accoutrement's are fortune cookies*… …a fortune worded like the one above has appeared on nearly every fortune cookie I have ever